All My Respect

by: Grace Driscoll on Feb 08, 2012 (http://pastormark.tv/2012/02/08/10-practical-ways-to-honor-your-hubby) 1. Pray faithfully. When I pray for my husband, the Holy Spirit softens my heart and his, and I learn to trust God with my marriage. 2. Grow personally. Time with Jesus and the Bible, studying and repenting are essential to honoring our husbands. 3. Encourage regularly. [...]

by: Grace Driscoll on Feb 07, 2012 (http://pastormark.tv/2012/02/07/what-does-it-mean-to-respect-your-husband)   “. . . let the wife see that she respects her husband.” Ephesians 5:33   Do you want a joyful and unified marriage that glorifies God? In order to obtain oneness and worship our Lord with our marriages, as women and wives we need to correctly [...]

“Wives, respect your husbands.” Paul seemed to think that was necessary to include in his letter to the Ephesians. As Miss Piggy would say, “Who, moi?” Yes, moi. I’m tired of seeing husbands mistreated by their wives…I did it to mine for years. I learned the hard way, and he paid the price, so let me redeem that hardship by sharing with you how I now show him respect.

Men and women experience love in very different ways. Most people are not conscious of this as they go through their lives, and so they attempt to show their love to people of the other sex in the same way they want it shown to them, in the same way they think of it naturally, without considering how the other person views it.

Respect him verbally, intellectually, and physically.

In most societies, this is an obvious one. There’s an etiquette for showing respect. Everyone knows it. And most people observe it. But, in the US, most people lack these formalities. So, let me give you some general ideas for showing respect for your husband.

Geek Males often work in fields that cause them to have to think a great deal and work long or irregular hours. This generally results in what I call “hurty brain”**Hurty Brain stems from the repeated misfiring of synapses that occurs when a question is asked of a geek that is light years behind what they specialize in.

A wise woman once told me, “If you want a truly fine husband, respect him at the level at which you want him to reach. A man will usually not rise above the level at which his wife respects him.” This is a general principle, not a hard and fast rule because God does not put accountability or responsibility for a man’s character on his wife. Nevertheless, strong evidence indicates a woman holds great power to make or break a man. In his book His Needs, Her Needs, Willard Harley amends the saying “Behind every great man is a great woman” to “Behind every great man is an admiring wife.”

Discuss this list with your husband. Ask him to check the ones most meaningful to him and then arrange them in order of importance to him. Use this list as a basis for learning his views. Your relationship can be greatly strengthened as you use these suggestions.